About three weeks ago, I felt like I was reaching my melting point. I can (and did) rationalize my feeling, because to a point it was understandable. My job as the executive director of a statewide child abuse organization had been quite busy, yet exciting. I created content for and facilitated two retreats in September and October which were so rewarding but quite tiring. I have been working on various projects for Timeless Waters and Beautiful Balanced Life…All of this is good—but for some reason I just began to crumble. Sometimes, we just need a break.
When burnout hits me, it is as if I can feel it in every cell of my body. It’s a subtle feeling of desperation coupled with a hint of depression. I hate to admit it, but it is just something that happens to me. Part of it is my go-go-go tendency and the other part is, unfortunately, just me.
So, about three weeks ago when I felt like I had reached my melting point, I realized this was my opportunity to be proactive before it went too far. But how?
I decided I wanted to get away for a few days.
And off went my brain—identifying all the reasons I couldn’t: Money. Time. My work schedule. My teenage son. The dogs. The cat. The doctor’s appointment that was scheduled. And the list went on…
That’s what we do, right? We immediately go to all the reasons we can’t do something, rather than problem-solving it and coming up with ways to make something possible.
So I decided to problem-solve it. I identified a window of opportunity in my work schedule, made a plan for my son and the dogs, and decided I would reschedule a few appointments. Even better, I learned I had enough miles on American Airlines for a round trip ticket to Mexico, and enough left-over points for a time-share for a three night stay at one of my favorite places. With two phone calls and an hour after deciding to problem-solve it, I had a trip booked to Puerto Vallarta, Mexico and was leaving in 4 days!
I was proud of myself and freaked-out at the same time.
It was a beautiful few days, filled with long walks on the beach, swimming in the pacific, meditation and reflection while staring out at the water.
As I walked on the wet sand, looking at the plethora of live sand dollars while the surf rushed over my ankles, I silently extended gratitude to the universe for bringing me such a beautiful experience. And as I did, the universe whispered back.
The message I received was that, so often, what we need or want is already there for us. But we have to be willing to look for it– to identify what’s available even if it is not in the exact form we have in our minds. We have to problem-solve it.
P.S. What is something you need help problem solving?